How to be More Confident on a Date?

how to be more confident

A big dampener on any date is low self-esteem. Fumbling, speaking out of context, unpreventable messes are the last thing you would want on a date. Don’t blame it on luck; it’s you who needs to take full control.

Stand in front of a full-length mirror and talk it out to yourself. Give finesse to your positives, be confident about your charm, looks, dress, hair, makeup everything.

Take ample time on your hands to plan things properly and boost your morale. Talking to a close associate and friend will give you more tips.

1. Being positive

Feel good about yourself; being positive is the first step towards your successful date. Do things and activities to lift your mood. If you head out with a good mood, then the date is also going to turn positive. You cannot move a stone from its place if you are not in the mood.

Brain and its chemicals play a major role in your oestrogen levels. The assumption is not always the mother of all fuck up’s in life. If you feel he’s going to like you, then you have to like yourself first and hold no doubts about it.

2. Be presentable

As a thumb rule always remember exterior matters as much as the interiors (wink-wink). Pick your dress carefully, the color and cut must accentuate your features, attributes, and color in the best compilation. Hair and make-up should complement the dress.

Don’t overdo, leave a hint of naturalness in everything. Don’t appear like a mannequin on your date; don’t wear something which is uncomfortable. After getting dresses up, take a final look and confirm it to yourself that it’s going to be a smooth sailing. Step out with full grace and aplomb.

3. Take responsibility

As the evening proceeds, you are sipping wine and your date asks,” What’s the next plan?” take responsibility for your next response and action. Always remember this question will be asked if all is going well.

So be prepared beforehand with your answer. It shouldn’t be like a hang-over next morning, and you are full of repentance. During you conversation, there will be ample signs to give you a clue for what’s next?

4. Be You

Nothing suits you best; other than being yourself. Stop being a pleaser or pretentious. If the date is in you; it will call back nevertheless. Speak your mind out and be honest with yourself and the meeting.

Guys are attracted to honesty, intelligence, and less complicated stuff. Rather than going round and round in circles, if everything is discussed and is out in the open. Believe me, it works or at least gives the other person food for thought.

Always remember it’s just a date not a do or die situation. He’s not the world savior and you are not at the helm of disaster to an end. It could be the other way round; despite making all the efforts and doing everything right; your date might just not as you expect it to be.

Dating Mistakes that Girls Make on the First Date

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A dream date is every girl’s fantasy since adolescence. Yes, there is always a checklist in mind of do’s and don’ts from both the sides. Your first date is, ought to be hard, you will be nervous, with all the chemical reaction going in your mind. There are specific points to be kept in mind before you jump instantaneously from the first proposal of dating.

1. Keep your responses checked/crisp

Say suppose, he asks, “will you come on a date with me”? Yes, I will. When are you free or where shall we meet? You should reply, “You just text me the time and place” I will be there. Don’t just say yes and then leave everything on chance. Sometimes it’s better to buy time and let the guy chasing. It increases the passion for achieving.

2. Restrain from your anxiety pangs

you are t be anxious, with thousands of doubts. But this is not the time to let that tidal wave spoil your castle of dreams. Meticulous planning will ensure better confidence level. Most important do not get anxious in front of him and speak out of context.

3. Be on time

After a lot of chasing and planning your guy would not want you to be super late for a date. Being late by 10-15 minutes is fine but more than this is not good for a date in general. You also lose out time to spend together if you reach late.

4. Be the icebreaker

Any date would turn hollow if the women don’t show any interest. You ought to ask, probe and answer to let the ball rolling. Long silences and running out of topics to converse is a bad sign for any date. Men like chatting up with women, who are intelligent. Chatting makes a lot of things easier and understandable.

5. Bringing Ex in conversation

While talking bringing your ex in talks is a real dampener. No one wants to know about your ex in his/her first date. Avoid this topic at all costs. Bringing skeletons from the closet can have dire consequences.

6. Switch off the mobile

Checking your mobile often, shows lack of interest. Where is the time to be busy with gadgets and you can inform your family and friends not to call/text for some time?

7. Show your positives

No one wants to date a crib-pot, pessimist or fault finder. Show your best version; it will do you own well, raise self-esteem, positive date, well spent evening, looking forward to meeting again.

8. Stop being judgemental

A critical analysis of you, date, time spent, ambiance, music, food, drink, conversation or just about anything is avoidable. Nothing comes to perfection; you are ought to make things perfect.

Proceed towards your date with an open mind. No hang-up’s, no over expectations, no overdoing, no to over drinking and no to almost everything which you think can be annoying. After meeting in 15 minutes, you know where the evening is heading to.